This dialogue has always been an ongoing conversation, pointing in the direction of human imperfection as a definite negative. We naturally have a distinct gift for speaking against the value of our minds & bodies. What's chaotic has been the embraced norm for far too long, and to the extent that we no longer see this norm as problematic. With normalcy today, there is a chaotic opportunity to degrade others through societal implications of "perfection." Is perfection even a realistic ideal? Will the mirrors in our homes become the unquestioned demise of the human psyche, and the fortification of well built, self-esteem?
Navigating any given day can become more like a trek through a haunted forest in a Disney flick, if we are unable to utilize strategies necessary to keep ourselves lifted mentally.
Our capabilities cannot access heights unknown without the capacity to love ourselves beyond assumed (physical) flaws that we possess. What is a flaw in the first place?
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Flaw (noun) - a mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object.
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They have been used in numerous instances/statements for both positive and negative reasons, but how valid is a flaw nowadays (context necessary)?
I'm sure that at some point, you may have used one of the following statements yourself:
I'm just a flawed human being....nothing special.
We all have flaws.
Flaws are what make us human.
Well I have some news for you. What if it's possible to change the way you see something flawed, especially about yourself? What if flaws can be something more, and not just remain...a problem or negative ideal? Personally, I've taken the time to retrain my "3rd eye" confidently. To me, depending on what the flaw is, I may consider it a story to tell. Different people possess war scars, near fatal scars from a vehicle accident, unique birthmarks that may not look so normal, and that's all okay! Essentially, what's presented is the opportunity to learn. A visible flaw sometimes may be a better chance to get to know someone, and so the crucial key regarding any visible flaws, is to change the way you see them.
Easing this subject into the romantic sphere, how do you see visible flaws on someone else? Some scars/marks are a bit more noticeable than others, but what's your reaction to flaws you can see on someone else? How do you perceive your own flaws that are visible to you, and how others may see them? These thoughts, questions, and even the answers matter!!
Ladies - You're wonderful as you are. What you may see as problematic may likely be an honorable, commendable, and uniquely beautiful part of you. I know date nights staring at the mirror could conjure up an arsenal of horrible comments, but you have to see yourself as pure magic.
Fellas - That goes for you as well. Stop attacking yourself verbally, whether in thought or out loud. Humanity does enough to decimate your identity and confidence. It makes 0 sense to join them.
I hope you have a fantastic week, and attach a blessed thought process to that.
An always concerned gentleman,
Jose V. Wright, Jr.
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